This week I had a conversation with someone about people who talk poorly of others behind their backs. It’s sad that this happens more often than we want to admit. The truth is that gossip has become a seemingly normal part of our daily interactions. We find it in our workplaces, schools, and even our churches.
When people think differently or do things different than us, it’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to convince others why we’re right and they’re wrong. And when people struggle or fail, we have a tendency to point out their flaws, to make ourselves feel better. But why do we do this? Why do we talk badly about others?
Whatever the reason, this behavior is not God’s will for our lives. In fact, God hates gossip—the Bible is very clear about this in multiple places throughout scripture. In Proverbs 6:19 it’s actually listed as one of seven things that are detestable to God.
This is why we should be using our words to build up, not tear down. Paul talks about this in Ephesians 4:29, when he says: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
My kindergarten teacher used to sing a little song that has stuck with me through the years: “Gossip, gossip ugly thing, such unhappiness it brings. If you can’t say something nice, don’t talk at all is my advice.” These simple words carry profound wisdom that many of us could benefit from today.
God calls us to a higher standard. In Ephesians 4:29, we’re urged to speak only what is helpful for building others up. Imagine how different our interactions would be if we followed this command. Instead of focusing on others’ shortcomings, we would highlight their strengths and encourage them in their walk with God.
Proverbs 12:18 says, “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Our words have the power to wound or to heal and, as followers of Jesus, we should strive to use our speech to bring healing and encouragement.
Gossip will always bring hurt and division, but when we use words that build up and encourage, we reflect God’s love and help bring healing to those around us. So, let’s take heed to Paul’s words in Ephesians 4:29 and ensure that our speech is always beneficial to those who listen. This helps create a community that is loving and supportive to all.
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